Questions to ask people on dating sites
But Christian Rudder, cofounder of the free online dating site Ok Cupid, knows the right questions to ask your prospective partner to cut through all the rigmarole.Here's Rudder's suggestion for making first date chit chat, via The Guardian People tend to run wild with those match questions, marking all kinds of stuff as “mandatory,” in essence putting a checklist to the world: I’m looking for a dog-loving, agnostic, nonsmoking liberal who’s never had kids – and who’s good in bed, of course.
” and: “Have you ever traveled alone to another country? If you’re ever stumped on what to ask someone on a first date, try those.But it’s a thorny issue - and one that must be tackled, as more and more of us turn to the online dating.No longer do we see tabloid headlines screaming ‘meet the couple who found love ON THE INTERNET!’ For Britain’s 16 million singles, looking for love online is the norm.Studies have suggested that anything between 35 and 50 per cent of all couples in the UK, now meet via the web.Published in the Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication, it explains that there’s a ‘tipping point’ when it comes to online dating.
Put simply, how soon you meet will have a direct effect on your chemistry. You could be consigning yourself to a disappointing date.
Thankfully, the window isn’t too terrifying (no one is saying that you have to slurp coffee in the first 24 hours).
What’s more, a study by dating site e Harmony, estimated that seven in ten couples will have done so by 2040 – with 55 to 64-year-olds experiencing the biggest boom (an expected 30 per cent rise between 20).
Of course, exchanging a barrage of emails – even phone calls or Skyping– can seem more secure.
You can ‘get to know’ someone from behind the safety of a screen.
But a recent study by the University of South Florida suggests that – while a short period of messaging is fine – we actually shouldn’t wait too long to arrange a meeting.