Is he playing the dating game
You can have love or you can have someone you compete against… but in the long term, it always results in guardedness, resentment, and withholding…and if that’s what characterizes the relationship, then it’s not a win on any level.
As in: “He’s doing this to me/against me, so I need to counteract what he’s doing to me and win…” There’s no winning/losing in relationships…if things go through that mental filter, it is always going to be a loss in the long run.Granted, there is a lot of relationship advice out there that advocates and even encourages using strategies and playing games, but any relationship that has a real shot of leading to lasting love does not and cannot have this component…You can’t have love in a relationship and simultaneously have counter-measures and defenses in how you relate to the other person. Maybe short, isolated events will happen that can make you feel like you’re gaining or losing ground…I really don’t like playing games but this guy I’m involved with is being very confusing and I can’t tell if it’s just a game or not.Is there a way to break the texting game or is that who that person is by nature and there’s nothing that can be done? Honestly, there’s no winning if you view a relationship as a game in the first place.
Whether or not it’s intentional is something you can never know for sure, so it’s in your best interest to believe it’s not (and if it is, then it’s because of some fear or issue he has and not because he’s trying to manipulate you).
A huge factor in having good relationships is finding a way to move through the world and be in the relationship in a way that doesn’t activate your defenses.
Seeing What He Does Seeing What He Says Finding Out For Sure Community Q&A If you’re really feeling a guy and aren’t sure if he’s on the same page, it can cause you a lot of stress and self-doubt.
If you’re not sure if the guy is playing with you, then you need to think about the things he does and says when you’re together.
Though there’s no foolproof way to know if he’s playing with you unless you ask him or catch him in the act, there are many signs that he’s not being genuine with you, and it’s important to know if you should watch out as soon as possible.
I hate the whole game of one person sending a text and the other waiting two hours before responding, even if they have their phone and aren’t busy, just so they don’t seem desperate.