Honor does not always mean doing exactly what they want, although it does many times. In this case, honoring your parents means valuing their opinions, advice, and rules.Remember, more than likely they have dated at least once before.
For instance, some people fall in love immediately and they have a smooth dating experience.
For other people, although God may be leading them, the feelings for each other take time to develop.
Some people date for many years, others date for months, or even weeks. If you cannot do that, then you should not be dating: it is not fair to either of you.
Like any relationship, dating and marriage should not be put into a box. Remember, you are trying to figure out if the two of you are a marriageable match. Your relationship is not so important that you cannot enjoy yourselves! Do romantic things, do normal things, do things together, and do things with your friends!
But before anyone can get married they have to go through the process of getting to know a person and pursuing love for them (at least if you practice the Western tradition of pursuing marriage).