Online dating: It is not that hard, and yet so many people make it so hard.
I’ve been documenting OKCupid atrocities for a while now, and a lot of themes crop up in the terrible messages that daters send me for, um, critiquing.
Don’t make her feel you have spent a sleepless night preparing your message. Try to get her primed for some chit-chat by asking her how she’s doing or send her a laugh or crazy fact you googled up. No butthead, she’s looking for hookup date, hence the reason why she is on a hookup website. But, you are aware that Net can be an unsafe place to play. It actually pays to know something about that chic before you click send.
But seriously, I know this seems obvious and straightforward but I can’t express how important this is…even if by the end, you’re still only messaging because you think she’s a babe. If you’re not reading it for you, you’re still reading it for her.
This should be the easiest thing in the world, but I can’t tell you how many people have written to me in French when it clearly states that I don’t speak French (apologetically) on my profile. smart, funny, etc.) BUT BE WARNED NEVER compliment a girl on something you can’t back up from her profile. No chick wants to hear that you love her in a first message. And the same goes for anything mushy, poetic, artsy, creative (unless funny) or that shows you wearing your delusional heart on your sleeve. So settle down, send a calm message, and hope for the best. of yours, do not give her a list of your latest accomplishments, a copy of your CV and the entire menu of your last night’s meal. The truth is, the first message is more about expressing your interest in her.
Humour Works Magic Forget about being a stand-up comedian to communicate on a hookup dating site.
You just need to be funnily crazy for her to break a grin. I am a simple-guy who loves to exercise and eat healthy.
It also appears that we have similar music tastes too.