Dating office co workers
Dear Lifehacker, I just recently started dating someone that I work with. In fact, according to a Career Builder survey of 4,000 workers, nearly 40% of people have dated a coworker in the past. There are a few things you need to keep in mind before you try to pull it off, though.We both want to continue our relationship, but we're not sure how to involve our mutual employer. When it comes to employee fraternization, every company has their own policy and there aren't any hard and fast rules across the board.
Your company's primary concern will be minimizing the fallout should a relationship go south. explains, there are a few different types of approaches they may take to limit liability while balancing your freedom with their safety: If you're considering dating a coworker, finding out what the policy is before you initiate a romantic relationship will typically be better than springing it on your bosses six months in.Once you know what the policy is (and assuming it isn't the zero-tolerance type), you can move on to phase two.While employers may be becoming more friendly towards workplace dating, that tolerance quickly flies out the window when one employee starts dating their direct superior.If you or your significant other manages groups of people, conflicts of interest can arise no matter how careful you are to treat your partner fairly.Even if you do everything perfectly, your company won't want to deal with the inevitable complaints from people who see a situation differently.There's no physical affection, no "I love you's" at work.
It's almost like we're different people at work, which is a good thing and has only gotten easier the longer we've done it.
We'll occasionally talk about home-related things (one of the dogs did such and such last night), but again it's never anything that I'd be embarrassed if anyone else at work heard.
If you are your partner's supervisor, talk to your employer about changing positions or departments if possible.
Even if you're not in a boss-employee relationship, you'll still want to be sure to keep your relationship a private matter at work.
Reader Scott Oldfield originally met his wife at work 14 years ago and explains how he went on to date and eventually marry her, all while they both continued to work for the same employer: Our employer is totally fine with relationships in the workplace as long as those involved keep things professional in the workplace.
My wife and I pretty much treat each other just like coworkers at work.