Is he happy and an honest/kind person, am I attracted to him, can he support himself. At our He Said/She Said event the other night, one man of 40 asked whether the fact he was 25K in debt as well as had a mortgage to pay was going to be a deal breaker for a woman.Another man interjected and said that he felt a man his age with that kind of debt was “a loser.” Translation? I’m better.” (Keep in mind that the man who asked the original question was in attendance. They’re you’re friend.) While watching the movie with a friend last night, we both remarked at how horribly awkward one particular first date conversation was.Isn't that the age when menopause kicks in, when women start losing their sex appeal and sexual appetite?
The woman, who was recently separated, asked the main character how long his longest relationship was. She seemed horrified at his response, ignoring the fact that her brief marriage failed and that she wasn’t even divorced and she was already dating. She still had sex with him and wanted to see him again.
The point I’m struggling to make with these two scenarios is that I believe we come up with a list of must haves and standards that, ultimately, are worthless.
I have a Bachelor’s degree from a decent school, but nowadays a Bachelor’s doesn’t mean much.
So a man doesn’t have to be “well educated.” (Though I do prefer he have at least one degree.) Basically, all the things I considered important in my thirties don’t really factor in to my decisions anymore. owning and financial security don’t really play in to my decision any more.
I hate to put it so bluntly but I think you need to accept that most of the men you’re meeting don’t plan on dating anyone for very long.